The line between discipline and setting your kids up to fail.
Well even though we were supposed to have one kid, we got two. I guess a sleep over fell apart last minute. So we had 2 boys 3 and 5. They are cute I'll give em that.
One thing I was looking forward too was making cookies with the boys. Lisa's friend said they really like to help do things, and I have a cook book with a baking with kids section so I thought that would be perfect. So we all agreed on Chocolate Chip Cookies, we just needed to wait till Lisa got home for work so we'd have the car. More on this story to come.
As we "borrow" our friends kids like this, one thing Lisa and I talk about is improving our parenting skills, and I think we learned a lot when we watched Laeden, and the one lesson that I really took from this time was there is a line (I'm not sure on how thin it is maybe medium) between discipline and setting your kids up to fail.
Back to my story:
Lisa was tired when she got home from work so I said I'd take the boys to the store for ingredients and we also had to stop at Lowes for some things for the Grill we bought the other day. So I put the 3 year old in the booster seat and his brother decided to sit right next to him, which I didn't really think anything of at the time. Lowes was uneventful but on the way to the grocery store the little one kept on hitting the older one, and I said if you don't stop hitting each other we are not making cookies... Well what else are 2 boys who are young and sitting next to each other in the back seat of a car gonna do besides hit each other. And I feel really strong about being consistent and meaning what I say and saying what I mean, so no making cookies. Well that definitely got their attention, they were perfect angels the rest of the way home. But because I said what I did we did not make cookies, which I think I was probably looking forward to as much as the boys were. And I thought I set them up to fail, so I guess you really just need to think about what you threaten before you do, and don't let boys sit next to each other in the back seat unless you want them to hit each other.
Other than that the evening was fine, they were a little difficult putting down to bed, but once I said enough was enough and said I was gonna stop coming each time they call they feel asleep.
Next up for Lisa and I is I guess a preteen so anyone out there with a preteen that needs some babysitting we could use the experience.
-Jason
One thing I was looking forward too was making cookies with the boys. Lisa's friend said they really like to help do things, and I have a cook book with a baking with kids section so I thought that would be perfect. So we all agreed on Chocolate Chip Cookies, we just needed to wait till Lisa got home for work so we'd have the car. More on this story to come.
As we "borrow" our friends kids like this, one thing Lisa and I talk about is improving our parenting skills, and I think we learned a lot when we watched Laeden, and the one lesson that I really took from this time was there is a line (I'm not sure on how thin it is maybe medium) between discipline and setting your kids up to fail.
Back to my story:
Lisa was tired when she got home from work so I said I'd take the boys to the store for ingredients and we also had to stop at Lowes for some things for the Grill we bought the other day. So I put the 3 year old in the booster seat and his brother decided to sit right next to him, which I didn't really think anything of at the time. Lowes was uneventful but on the way to the grocery store the little one kept on hitting the older one, and I said if you don't stop hitting each other we are not making cookies... Well what else are 2 boys who are young and sitting next to each other in the back seat of a car gonna do besides hit each other. And I feel really strong about being consistent and meaning what I say and saying what I mean, so no making cookies. Well that definitely got their attention, they were perfect angels the rest of the way home. But because I said what I did we did not make cookies, which I think I was probably looking forward to as much as the boys were. And I thought I set them up to fail, so I guess you really just need to think about what you threaten before you do, and don't let boys sit next to each other in the back seat unless you want them to hit each other.
Other than that the evening was fine, they were a little difficult putting down to bed, but once I said enough was enough and said I was gonna stop coming each time they call they feel asleep.
Next up for Lisa and I is I guess a preteen so anyone out there with a preteen that needs some babysitting we could use the experience.
-Jason
posted by Jason at 6/17/2007 12:57:00 PM
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